” Sexual purity is receiving no sexual gratification from anything or anyone outside of your husband or wife.”

Every young man’s battle . by Stephen Arterburn ,Fred Stoeker with Mike Yorkey

Don’t you like that, receiving sexual pleasure from nothing nor anyone, besides your marriage partner. And here we are, in the era of sex toys , Satan must be having a good laugh.

Purity is one vast treasure. And well, sexual purity is a matter I doubt am qualified to ever talk about. But well,I have read about it alittle for now. I guess we all should be fighting for sexual purity. People are losing track of the fact that even masturbation is sexually immoral. The altar of sexual idolatry sure is a real thing. Sex is like a whole new part of who you are and you suddenly discover there are other organs of your body that can bring you pleasure and it’s in a way , a unique pleasure just like all the others , it’s like one discovering they have a sense of taste and can enjoy ice cream. Only, you have always enjoyed the pleasure of taste , and sight and hearing probably, this may turn out somewhat different. I’m not married yet so I definitely don’t know much about that actually .

I guess I can use my time being single to define sexuality God’s way and also remember, am missing nothing, afterall, intercourse isn’t like food, it isn’t something your physical body can’t do without . For instance in regards to homosexuality, I could keep this in mind ,” Eros alone is not evil, but eros outside of God’s ethics is. ”

(This is for the Ladies ,Literally sexual purity means just that, ask my father ( my earthly father ) for the key, a key not to my body but to my heart . It’s our hearts we should be guarding❤️)

The world says, “Sex means nothing.” But the Word says, “Sex means unity.” Put differently, sexual intimacy means spiritual union.

The Song of Solomon , An Invitation to Intimacy. by Douglas Sean O’Donnell.

I guess the whole sex means unity thing is the basis of the no prostitution rule . Let me quote the bible , “Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” 1 Corinthians 6:16 “

Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. St. Matthew 5:8

But the Word says, “Sex means unity.” It’s an inexplicable act of mutual passion, possession, and submission: I give my total self to you, and you give your total self to me.

The Song of Solomon , An Invitation to Intimacy. by Douglas Sean O’Donnell.

All who have this hope in him purify themselves, just as he is pure. 1 John 3:3

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4

But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.St. Matthew 5:28

If you are a Christian and probably going this is impossible. I mean no masturbation ( it’s sexually impure) , no prostitution, no lust, no pornography (God makes the right thoughts a huge priority ) , and then , guess what, even the marriage bed ought to be kept pure , so no masturbation in marriage and no pornography always , now that feels crazy. Well, sex is sort of part of pleasure giving between a married couple so I presume sensual pleasure and you seeking your own might just be impure. And in the novel Every young Man’s battle, they do say that if you can’t win a war on masturbation out of marriage, you will have to continue fighting with it even in marriage, marriage does not suddenly make you win your sexual battles like people think it does.

Actually, it’s in God that all longings are fulfilled. Everything will leave you wanting more because only God can satisfy. But am no expert and am also a representative of the female gender, the war in sexual purity is one we win quite easily, that’s after we figure out a way around dating ofcourse. What actually drives us to immorality will be loneliness, feelings of worthlessness, fear of rejection , etc , in a way, our war is against our emotions mostly, not our physical bodies. The men’s war might be physical mostly but ours , emotional mostly , turns out the sexes do differ abit afterall. But well , we all fight for purity nonetheless.

I guess people should really check out these fun novels. And I will probably be reading about dating , a novel called Kissing Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris. I hope I will remain focused on it, I might switch in the middle, a bad habit that’s developing. But am making twenty years this month, and am so confused about what dating ought to be, though I have never gotten physically involved with anyone, I obviously have gotten emotionally involved while trying to be smart , I ended the relationship but it still hurt and led to a quarrel . And though I can’t keep from getting hurt, I want to know what God thinks about dating in this society, moreso when all my peers think sex is part and parcel of dating. Actually , the relationship in which I got myself involved , we had remained friends even while I talked to him for hours till 2pm in the night , talk just seemed to flow easily , in a way , am scared of dating. But am good with being single , I still don’t know what to think about marriage, and I am enjoying studying.

Back to sexual purity , well, if you think Purity impossible, you should remember we are in a battle . And this time round your body might work against you. But nowhere is battle such an easy thing. Choose Authenticity. Choose Purity, Choose to Fight. Choose God.